How to make a hotwife

Purpose: The intent of this guide is to give the husband direct information on how he can influence and help transform his wife into a hotwife. I doubt it will work for non-married couples because there is no tying commitment.


Audience: There are many articles that cover what a hotwife is, her role and how to find sexual partners for her. This document is written for a married man and is not intended to be a primer for women that want to live the lifestyle.

Scope: This post is intended to aid in the development of a hotwife and does not include discussion of the psychological drivers that influence the reasons behind her lifestyle change. The scope and limitation of this how-to-manual is directed towards the actual methods used to change the wife’s lifestyle. It is written for a married man that wants to have a hotwife. Some of those influential factors that may change the situation are; domination, jealousy, submissiveness and cheating. It is assumed that the wife may or may not be open to being a hotwife and therefore the scope of this manual is limited to actions that the husband can use to modify his wife’s role and habits.

I feel obligated to give a warning to men using this manual. It does work and may not be reversible. Do your home work before you start. Make sure this is what you want. It can have a permanent damaging affect if the couple is not happy in their romantic love relationship. Conditioning and manipulating your wife is serious and could have a negative outcome.

Obviously for the husbands reading, you want a hotwife. This article will help husbands move their wife towards being a hotwife. We will be discussing what to do, where to do it, when to do it, how to do it and why to do it.

The end result will be a married woman that lives in a day-to-day lifestyle that greatly and routinely puts her in situations where she and other men will have and opportunity to meet.

Getting started making a Hotwife

Step one for the husband: forget everything that you want your wife to be as a hotwife. It is not applicable here. This is not about you. It is about your wife.
Sorry to disappoint the husbands here, but there is not a 10 step program to convert your wife. It is an ongoing process that will require many different actions over time. But it does work. Some of the things that you need to do will not make sense, trust it and just do it anyway. You will see the results. Unless your wife is begging you today to let her be a hotwife then it is up to you to change her lifestyle.
The key to understanding how this change takes place is to realize that the husband can have what he wants when the gets what she wants.

How the process works

There's no single method to make a  hotwife. It all depends on her personality. But the following method has proven successful in many occasions. Follow this method and you MAY get your wife to be a hotwife. This is the part that you have waited to read. Are you ready? You can get your wife to be a hotwife by giving her the things that SHE needs to be a hotwife. Notice that I didn’t say that you make her a hotwife so that the husband can like it? The husband must give her the things that she will use to be a hotwife.

The way this will work is for you to do specific things over time that she will get used to, things that she will like, things that will make her feel good emotionally and things that you slowly give to her to change.

Some changes will be very subtle and other will be very obvious. The husbands job is to keep replacing the old lifestyle things with the new hotwife lifestyle things. Break down each thing in her life that and replace it with things that are more appropriate to making a hotwife. Eventually, more and more of the normal things in her life will be replaced with things that make easier and natural for her to be the hotwife that she is. Think of it as going on a diet to loose weight. You can see it happening. You can’t see it happening daily. But if you stayed on a diet for 6 months and then compared yourself before and after then you would clearly see a difference. This is the absolute most essential key to making this work. If you go to fast she will be resistant to the change. But you also know, if you keep going and slowly change things everyday then in 6 months when you look back you will see that your non-hotwife is gone and has been replaced with a hotwife.

I know from experience and hearing results from other husbands that this works. There is no way that you could ask your wife today to switch her lifestyle around and be a hotwife tomorrow. First she would not do it and chances are she would not like it. But by being persistent over time, she will not be opposed to the changes. She will discover in herself that she likes it.

How to follow the process

The way to success is follow the process as written. Don’t second guess it and don’t change it. Even when things appear to be ahead of schedule, don’t be tempted to move too fast. Also, you must keep reminding yourself that this is for her, not the husband. The husbands reward will come later after she gets what she wants. Give her what she wants and don’t stop giving her what she wants.

Things to do.

Start by immediately making a list of things to do. You will get many examples later. Make a list of things that you will do for her. Most of the changes will be common for all women. Of course there will be some changes specific to your wife. In addition to what you read here, LISTEN to the things she says. During normal conversation she will make comments about the things that she needs to change, although she won’t realize it. As the husband, you should also be watching other women, discretely, to see what things that you could apply to your wife.

Now we get into the actual things that you will be changing to move her towards being a hotwife. The things that you will be changing include everything from clothes to food.

Things to change:

The words of reassurance:

Tell her more often how good she looks in a specific outfit. Use words like; sexy, hot and frisky. Tell her how you like that one blouse that is cut low because it shows her cleavage when she bends over.

Tell her how that skirt really accents the shape of her ***. Tell her that you were thinking about her all day wearing the clothes she had on and that they made you really horny. The reason for telling her these things is to keep in the front of her mind that she is desirable. As you tell her repeatedly how certain clothes make her look, you will notice that she wears those particular clothes more often.


Don’t misinterpret why she wears the clothes. She is not wearing them because you like them, she is wearing them because she likes the reaction and attention she gets from you. And, she will bring it to your attention that she wearing something that you had made a comment about earlier, this is your perfect chance to reinforce that it makes her look good. Now, if you are not asleep at that point you will have noticed that she is saying, “I WANT ATTENTION. TELL ME I LOOK GOOD.” Start this immediately and don’t stop. We will use that technique later on also when it comes to suggesting different clothes.

The best kept secret in using words of reassurance is what I call third party verification. Suppose you are in a restaurant, mall or store. Just some place casual where there are other men around. You can pick out some guy and then say to your wife, “I noticed that guy in the red shirt keeps checking you out.” The best thing about this technique is that someone other than her husband is checking her out. (It does not matter if it is real or not, she will perceive it as real and like it.) The validation comes from the fact that the husband is only an innocent by-stander telling her what he observed. You can laugh a little bit and say something like, “He looks away every time you look up but he keeps looking at your chest / *** / legs.”

It is really all about perception. If she believes someone is checking her out then she will like it. Just make up something about someone else looking at her or a comment that someone else made about her.

I hate to use a negative example here but if you tell someone often enough that they are stupid then they will start to believe it. This works the other way also. If you tell your wife often enough that she is hot and that guy are checking her out then she will believe it. The end result is that you can get her hooked on wanting to know that other guys are checking her out.

Clothes, clothes, clothes


Go shopping with her for clothes. Pick out something sexy / short / low cut and ask her to try it on for you. Make sure she shows it to you. It doesn’t matter in the beginning whether or not she buys it. What matter is that simply putting on something sexy starts the ball rolling towards getting her to wear sexier clothes. Be sure to tell her how much you liked something.

Unless your wife is an absolute prude it is ok to ask to wear something just for you. Ask her to wear a nice lacy bra, a sheer bra, sheer to waist pantyhose, a thong, no panties or something like that. Early on when you ask don’t pressure her to wear it out in public. Later you can ask her to wear them out. She will object but no one will know what she is wearing under her clothes except you. And, she will know what she wearing underneath and it will make her feel sexy. As you progress through better clothes for her to wear you can suggest that she wear a certain low-cut blouse or shirt skirt somewhere when you are in another town or maybe traveling. You can say, “No one knows you here and women wear clothes likes this everyday.” The point here again is to get her used to wearing better clothes. Even just asking her to wear something around the house or just in the bedroom will let her know that she is desirable.

Treat your wife with respect. But sometimes it is ok to say, “Hey I picked out this shirt I want you to wear to today (a good shirt of course), can you wear if for me?” I found it was fairly easy to convince my wife that one day a week she needed to dress sexier just for me.

Buy her a blouse or skirt that you want her to wear. Don’t pressure to wear it, but when she does wear it make sure you tell her how hot she it.


They key here is to slowly keep asking her to wear better clothes and to let her know how good she looks in them. The process is that you originally ask her to wear certain clothes or notice that she is wearing something nice. You pay her some sexy comments. Being a woman she will like and want the comments to continue. Pretty soon SHE will be dressing better so that she can keep getting the comments. The real goal here is to get her hooked on wanting the compliments about being sexy. It’s like a drug for most women, they will addicted to know they look good and will keep dressing right to get the comments.

As you will notice we are tying in the “words of reassurance” with the clothes. Never miss an opportunity to tell your wife that some guy was checking out her shirt / skirt or whatever. I hope you realize at this point that it is completely irrelevant if another person actually says anything or not. What is important is that your wife believes that someone did say something about her. It is so easy to walk up to your wife in a department store where you two had been shopping and say something like, “Hey right before I got over hear I overheard these two guys talking about you.”

Anything that you can do to get her into better clothes is the right way to be going. The main affect this has is that she getting used to wearing better clothes. The more often she does it the less resistance there will be.

More words of Manipulation

When you and your wife are lying in bed just casually talking before going to sleep tell her how one of the guys at work had his wife come into the office to get something. You can tell her that all the guys at work kept talking about how she was dressed and how hot she looked. (But be sure to have a reason why you didn’t see her though.) The reason for telling her this is to let her know that the husband in that case liked the way the wife dressed and those other guys do check out women that are dressed sexy. It gets her used to thinking about dressing sexy and getting attention.

This is a touchy subject but if you can get your wife to talk about one her past sexual experiences before she met you then it is really good foreplay. The advantage to this is that after you and her talk about it then she can see how much you are really turned on by it.



Tell her that you had a dream that they guy that was checking her out in the restaurant or at work was having sex with her. Don’t elaborate. Just see how she responds. The benefit of this is that is once again she hears that she is desirable. It doesn’t matter if it was just a made up dream, just describing the dream will still be in her thoughts.

Once in a while I have told my wife that she was having a sex dream because I woke in the night and she was moaning and moving around in the bed. This is a win-win method. She may have actually had a dream sometime and may share it with you. The worst case is that it puts the thought in her head that she was having sex with someone else.

Never talk about yourself and other women. It will make your wife think you are wanting to be with them.

Bribes

It may seem silly but if you do something for someone else first they will feel obligated to do something for you in return.

Here is one way that works pretty good. Early in the week do something like wash the dishes, go out and pick up dinner for the whole family, bring her some chocolate or flowers. You can also go to be and snuggle up with her like you want sex, but don’t have sex. If you can do 2 or 3 things for her early in the week then when the weekend comes she will be obligated to you and will feel guilty if she doesn’t to do something that you asked her to do. I do this with my wife and then on Saturday I asked to wear a certain low cut blouse or short skirt when we went out to dinner. She never refuses if I have done enough for her first. Then when we go out I make sure that it is a place where there can be some guys to check her out.

Put a chocolate bar on her pillow, but don’t have sex with her until you get a chance to ask her to wear something sexy when you go out of the house.

Once my wife and I were out at a restaurant. When she was gone to the rest room I had laid $20 on the table. When she came back I didn’t say a word about it. When she asked me about it I said, “Do you remember that movie Indecent Proposal?” I then said I will give you this $20 to go to the restroom and take your panties off and put them in your purse. She did it. Of course nothing else happened at the restaurant but she was super wet by the time we go home. Sitting there without panties really got her going.

You can also just tell her that you will take care of dinner and the dirty dishes for a week if she will let you pick out her clothes for one day.
Once you get her used to wearing the right clothes then you will start getting her to wear them more often until it becomes routine. The next step is get her out where she can be seen more often, at the mall, sporting events, clubs and work.


The types of clothes that she needs to be wearing on a regular basis are sheer to waist pantyhose, stockings, sheer bras, decorative stockings and shorter skirts. As the husband, you should slowly throw out her old bras and bad clothes. (“Loosing” them behind the clothes dryer is a good place. Or you hang them in the closet with your clothes.)

Buy her an ankle bracelet and have her wear it on her right leg. It doesn’t matter what kind at first. After she gets used to wearing it then get her a new one with the little slave bells on it or a heart.


Another step

When you feel the time is right you should make her think more about sex, and in particular girls having sex with several men. Never ever let her see, read or think about group sex or a threesome with 2 girls. Always the focus should be on the girl. Eventually she will imagine herself into that girls situation. And even better she will think it is normal for a girl to have several men! 






If you and you wife on occasion watch porn together, congratulate! It will make it easier to introduce erotic movies where the girl gets pounded by men with real big dicks. If you never watched porn together I suggest you casually tell her about some erotic movies made especially for girls. Say you read about in a newspaper and about 2 days later you just happen to have bought one for her. Suggest you'l see it together. Make sure to give her plenty of reassurance the whole time. Tell your wife she looks better then the girl in the movie. That your wife is sexier. As a mater affect try not to even watch the movie yourself. Give all your attention to your wife the whole time. Do not make her jealous of the girls in the move! Instead take the opportunity to make sure your wife is totally relaxed. Pour some wine for her. Massage her shoulders. Whatever she likes. Repeat the process regular and slowly introduce movies with well hung guys and threesomes with one girl. Make sure to leave the movies where you wife knows where they are and give her plenty of opportunity's to "secretly" see them on her own.


When you feel that she is getting used to the idea of a girl having sex with several guys it's a good time to introduce role play into your marriage. Tell her you remember how fun you had when you first dated years ago. Make her remember the thrill when you first meet, how nervous she was for the first kiss etc. Next invite her out for a "date". Preferably at the place where you first dated, suggest that you should meet her there, and repeat your first date. Make sure to propose it as a romantic idea to calibrate your love an marriage


Try to stay in role the whole evening and when you get home make love to her like it was the first time ever. Focus only on her pleasure.
A couple of weeks later suggest that you repeat the process, but this time you should pretend to be someone else, a complete stranger. Again make love to her like you never done before.
Carefully let her know you get turned on by thinking of her on dates. Don't push it, just casually mention it and see how she reacts. For sure she will love the attention you give her during your dates and the lovemaking afterwards. Hopefully she will agree that she likes it too. 
A few days later when you are in bed ask her about her date, ask her like if you weren't there and make her tell you like she would tell her best girlfriend, ask for details and show her how horny the idea of her dating makes you. Don't go any further, yet!

Moving forward

Please be aware the you need to give this time, again depending on your wife it may take months, or years before you should move forward. Make sure it feels natural for her to wear sexy clothes and that she doesn't react when you talk about other men checking her out.


Now at some point you will just have to make some arrangements for another man to be able to play with her. You will have to use your own ideas for this one. Keep it simple though. Take her dancing and have friend dance with her and feel her up. You can get her to wear her sheer shirt around the house one day and then have friend show up unexpectedly.

One good way that is easy to do is to go out drinking with a friend and her. Then you can all go back to your house and watch TV. Some get all three of you on the sofa. You can steer the conversation towards how hot she is. Your friend can tell her how hot she is. Slowly, you can play with her nipples, but don’t open her shirt. She won’t stop you even though he is there. You need to say something about how good her breasts are. Then you will tell him straight up to go ahead and have a feel. Don’t ask her because she is required to say no. She won’t stop you because she wants the attention. Of course the friend needs to reassure her that her boobs are nice. Don’t over do it the first time. The key is to get her used to it slowly just the same way you did with the clothes. Don’t do it too long though, just let her get teased.

After that, you need to act really horny right before sex and she will ask why. When she asks, tell her that you had been thinking about the other guy playing with her tits.

This process should be repeated often. It gets her used to having other men touch her, she knows it’s ok with you, she sees how horny it makes her husband. But mainly it creates a desire in her that she will need to have recurring attention for.

Up until this point it has been all about getting her in the right frame of mind and to train her to want the attention. After that first touch from another man though, it is time to move forward. It is no longer a question of “if” or “what” it is only a question of “when” and “how”.

Party girl

Too make her prepared to go out and pull when she has become a hotwife You need to show your wife you don't mind her going out partying. Encourage her to go out as often as possible. Make it really easy for her. Find a good reason for her to party. Look in magazines for concerts, theaters or whatever she likes and suggest she should go. Offer to take care of the house, cleaning, dishes etc to free up her time. Offer to drive her if needed. Also try to arrange for her to go out with the most promiscuous friends she has. Do it often!
As always make sure she has really sexy clothing. If she hesitates say it's for you. That you want too be proud of her and that it simple turns you on when she is dressed sexy. And if that doesn't work just bribe her again. Give her extra money to cover for the whole evening.

What happens on vacation, stays on vacation! By now she knows you don't mind other men checking her out. She's knows you are comfortable with other men touching her nipples ans she probably craves the attention she gets from other men. It's time to encourage her new behavior and bribe her with a weekend trip to a nice, warm and comfortable place. If she is reluctant to any of the steps above, it's a good idea to suggest that you will give her this trip, if she agrees to whatever step she reluctant to do.
Again you should plan this carefully and have her go on this trip only with the wildest girlfriend you know. Encourage her to have fun, to party and dance all night long. Make sure she pack only the sexiest outfits on the closet. Go through her luggage just before she leaves and replace those baggy shirts and ugly jeans with new clothes that you secretly bought for her just for this trip.

Getting to it!

Unless you know a horn dog that has the hots for your wife then my recommendation is to get a new “Friend” that you met some where other than work. She needs to know that he does not know any other people that you two know. This friend is actually a man that you found in the internet personal ads that will help seduce your wife. You can play him up to her as a friend. Don’t use a real friend though. It needs to be someone that’s main reason for being around you and her is get inside her.

Place an ad with a few pics of her. Be very specific on what you want and what you plan to do. Meet him alone at first. Somewhere like the mall or a store. Don’t let him see you car. Don’t tell him you last name or phone number. Get his phone number and call him only from a payphone. Ask to see his drivers license to verify his age and last name. If the guy won’t tell you his phone number, last name and show you his license then scratch him off the list.

Keep is simple. Just pick a clean cut average looking man, a little younger than her. You can fulfill your fantasies about her later.

After you have made the arrangement for all three of you to go out for some drinks or dancing, then make arrangement to go to someone house. As long as you are right beside her she will know it’s ok for him to make advances on her by touching her. Don’t worry if she does not have sex with him the first time. Remember, you are just building the desire in her to want his attention. Be sure and let her know later how exciting it was for you. You can make up something that he said to tell her about how hot she is. (He will go along with what ever you say.) Now you have created that itch in her. Please comment below and tell us how it's going.

Make sure your new "friend" asks your wife for her online contact so they can chat later on. Avoid larger social medias like facebook. Use more private one on one chat programs like skype, Whatsapp etc. That will make it feel more private and secure. Arrange a time where your friend is available and beforehand prepare a situation where all housework is done and your wife is relaxed with a glass of wine in front of her computer. Let your friend "by chance" contact her for a chat. She'll probably ask you what to do. Encourage her to go ahead and let her know you find it sexy that she's in contact with the guy who was coming on too her the other day. Make sure to leave the room and give her all the privacy she needs and let you friend lead the conversation.

Keep going

Before you arrange a second meet with your friend. Go back and reinforce your wife into wearing the right clothes and ankle bracelet.

The next most important thing is to let her know how much you like for her to play around. You are her husband and she will naturally want reassurance from you.

Eventually with enough of the playing around your friend will have sex with her. When that happens let her know how hot she is. During their sex be sure and rub yourself or play with your cock. But don’t cum. Wait until he is done and then get in her as soon as you can. Tell her how great it feels after some else has already been in her. (This is very important, because that attention and appreciation that you are giving her at that point can only happen one way: after she has sex with another man.)

The goal is to make her want your reassurance that is the so sexy, hot and desirable when she is having sex with another man. Be careful not to just make it about sex because she can have sex with you. She needs to be trained and conditioned that having sex with another man is what how she can get the praise from her HUSBAND that she is still desirable. Of course she will like the praise and attention from the other man but that is secondary. If the other man’s attention becomes primary then she won’t need you around then she would just be a cheating wife.

After the first time she has sex with another man she will be unsure about how she feels. Never ask her if she was ok with it because it will create doubt in her mind. ONLY focus on how hot she is and how much the other man liked being with her. NEVER mention the words trust, guilt or jealousy. It must be assumed that she should be having sex with other people and that all of you like it.

After about a week after the first time, back off some and don’t say anything about it. She will not be able to stand it and will need to see how you feel about it now. Reassure her that she is so hot and it was great. The reason it is import to wait for her to talk about it is because if SHE is the one that brings it up then will have to let you talk about it too. So at that point be prepared to say that you loved the experience of how she felt. Over time, talk about about it casually like at the grocery store, while driving or on the phone. This will make it just another part of her life.

Don’t ask but go ahead and make arrangement for the next meeting. After the second time she has sex with another man, make it happen two or three times in the next month. Try to arrange for two or three other men to be with her. The reason being is that is will still all be very new and exciting for her. So if in two months time you can get her to have sex with three different men on about six occasions then it will become routine. It will just be part of her life. It has been proven that routine events in a person’s life that is repeated for three or four weeks will become habit. Just make it common and routine for her to have sex with other men. Remember at the beginning of this guide where we were talking about her wearing a different shirt or you telling her that some guy was checking her out? It all works over time.

Overtime you can let her go out on dates with other men or have a regular lover that shows up at 9pm every Wednesday to be with her. The creation your hotwife will be successful when it is no longer a matter of IF she will have sex with other men. The success will show when the only questions is who is it going to be and how often.

After the first couple of men, her personality will adjust and she will accept her role. The clothes will no longer be an issue. She will naturally dress the right way. He skirts will be naturally shorter. She will expect and NEED the touch of another man to get the attention she has to have.

This is the process. Enjoy.

Once she realizes and adapts to her true role as a hotwife then you can help her find the “Woman’s guide to being a hotwife” on the internet to help refine her duties.

Here are some more elements to push her right direction.

Dress her in better clothes daily. Buy her different perfumes often. Ask her to change her hairstyle. Tell her to go to work and occasionally "forget" to wear bra and panties to the office. Ask her to wear a really short skirt when you and her travel out of town.

Sexy, lacy underwear will make her feel sexy even if her sexy clothes don’t show.

Sexy is, is sexy does.

She needs to show lots of leg. Tell her to let the skirts and dresses ride high enough so that other people can see that you are wearing stockings and garters. A woman wearing stockings and garters is taken as a sign that she needs sex.

She must wear bright red lipstick. Apply and reapply the lipstick.

When dancing move your hands to her arse and press. Don't be shy about letting everyone see you groping her. Other guys will know it’s ok to that if they dance with her

No matter whether true or not, NEVER, Never miss an opportunity to tell her how much attention she is attracting.


ReferencesThis base of this article is copied from the Experienceproject. But I have freely modified it, added several sections and pictures to make the article more visual. I hope you enjoy it. And good luck!


19 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this great guide!

I have followed this guide carefully for about 7 months now and it is actually working. My wife (who used to be quite boring) now dresses sexier then when she was young.
She has also taken the first struggling steps.. Last weekend I had a friend over and she actually let him touch her breasts! Right in front of me!
We where talking about breast implants and if you could feel them or not, so I suggested he should try for himself (My wife has implants since many year ago). So he did, he squised and fundled them for a good 3-4 minutes. Super sexy!

Anonymous said...

I have followed this guide without having it read before for 5 years now and yes it works. my wife was not boring but very shy and reluctent regarding clothing and interacting with other men. she is wearing very short skirts in allday situations now, mostly butt slightly visible, and actually hits on coworkers and guys at bars. she has sex with other men about once a week and mostly got good moods and is laughing a lot. at home she wears stockings with no skirt even when normal friends come over. she became a real hotwife and she actually loves it.
I started with buying shorter skirts and hinger heels. later I made her a date as present. I encouraged her getting dated and fucked frequently and made clear that its ok and welcome too. what better is there than a warm loving woman fucking around with smile on her face and a number of well willing dicks on her tail. head up and proud to be a fucking hot wife at my side.

Humble boy said...

Congratulations!
I'm very happy for the both of you. Happy that you dared to live out your fantasies. Happy that you don't care what other people think is "normal". I'm sure you have e better and stronger relationship now then ever before!

Live the dream!

Anonymous said...

I discovered this guide a few weeks ago. And have been following it. Wife seems to be loving the extra attention from me, but has now admitted to liking the attention of other men and women. And has even admitted to me that a male Co worker of hers came on to her.

Linka said...

Man, you are talking right at the beginning about making her reveal her body through transparent clothes... But not every wife can go that far from the start. I didn't manage to make her do that in years! I hardly managed to make her some t-shirt with cleavage in the past and you ask me to do that. I can't make her go without bra even with a top that isn't revealing... Something has to go slower...

Humble boy said...

Dear Linka. I'm glad you tried this method. For many couples this has proved successful, but we are all individuals, and the method needs to be adjusted accordingly. Lets quote what I said in the opening remarks "There's no single method to make a hotwife. It all depends on her personality. But the following method has proven successful in many occasions".

Have you considered the fact that you and your wife perhaps aren't mentally prepared for the hotwife lifestyle? I know of another couple where the wife was raised in a strict environment whereas here parents saw sex as a sin. She could never get rid of theses feelings, hence she could not commit to an "open" marriage...

Anonymous said...

From PB.
Hi, I have been working with my wife in a different way. I do all the work at home, have become very obidient with her and submissive. I also under performing in bed with her, and now she does like me liking her vagina more than penetrating her. She now call me her PB or pussy boy. She usually picks on my telling me that my organ has decreased in size and calls it her little we-we... I encourage her to wear sexy clothes which she does now. When she is complaining a lot about anything, I usually tell her that what she needs is a bull that give her the sex that she has not received now for 2 years, and that she deserves it. She usually does not responds. Can you give me advise of how to go from here?
Thanks for this great site.

Anonymous said...

Can someone respond to PB?? I am in a very similar situation.

Humble boy said...

PB. I would be glad to help you. but it is always tricky to give specific advice. I don¨'t know you, or your wife and we are all different individuals, with different perspective on life. But I can give you some general thoughts...
It sounds to me like you are persistent, that's good and a process like this will take time. So my first thought would be to hang in there, and give it more time. Be careful not to push to hard on her now that you have reached this far. Pushing to much may backfire!

My second thought would be to introduce role playing into your relationship. Pick a day when you are both relaxed and not stressed from work, family or other things. Role playing can have many flavors. I know a couple that goes all the way. The meet at a bar and introduce themselves as complete strangers, meeting for the first time and sooner, or later that evening they end up having great sex. I know the wife loves this game and it always gets her really turned on.
Another way of doing it is to name her dildos(s). My wife has called her favorite dildo big Peter. We always refer to her dildos as a third person and I try to use them on her as often as possible.
The idea of role playing is to get her used to the idea of being fucked by someone who is not you.

Thirdly, if you want to push it (But be careful to avoid backfire!). It's one possibility to introduce a "friend" over for drinks one evening. (With "friend" I mean someone thats introduced to your ultimate goal to be cuckolded) This could be someone you already know and trust, or you can go online to find an experienced bull.. Regardless you must be clear to them that they can not DEMAND sex at this moment, that you are merely trying to make her go one step out of her comfort zone.
Before such meeting you must make sure her mood is right, that she is happy, relaxed and feeling good about herself.
During the meeting there are different ways to proceed. One way could be to just casually bring the subject into sex, and into swinging. Now you must stress, and I men really be clear! That you have no interest what so ever to have sex with anyone except your wife. but! That you find the idea existing to see your wife with another man. Please be prepared that she will insist that she is not interested, but you have planted a seed...
Another way is to talk about her body. If she has breast implants you are lucky! A good way is to talk about implants, and have your friend bet a 100£ that he can recognize implant by just feel a boob (or boobs). Accept the bet, and convince your wife that he should feel her breast. I mean for a 100£ she would do it, right? If possible, try to excuse yourself from the room to give them more privacy. Make sure he gets a good squeeze, and if possible fondle her breast as much as possible. It's essential that he gives her good feedback about her breast. How sexy she is. how good it feels, how turned on he gets, etc. Make sure he loses the bet, and that your wife gets the money.

That's just some ideas, but again. You know your wife better that me and you need to find that path that works for you both.

Good luck, and please let us know how it works out!

Anonymous said...

Is it helpful to tell to your wife names of ex boyfriends or other men while she is sleeping?
Anybody...

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Anonymous said...

I'm a longtime fan of your site here and have been following your method since late december. I am making some progress, my wife has started to admit to me that she has a lot of guys who flirt with her. She has asked me to buy her some sexy clothes, and has also started dominating me in the bedroom, sometimes quite physically. I am happy with the progress I have made but am also afraid of going too fast and blowing it.

Humble boy said...

Hi!

I'm so happy to hear things are working out for you, and that you are making progress! What I can tell from your post, it sounds like you are doing just fine. Domination, sexy clothes will make many wannabes jealous ;)

Now perhaps you need to ask yourself. What do you REALLY want to be the next step? Are you 100% sure cuckolding is what you desire, honestly?

I'm asking because the more dominant your wife gets, the more challenging it will be for you to push her, in any direction. I see you have two options here. (1.) Continue on the path that you are on, enforce her as the dominant in your relationship. and thereby just see where she want's to go. It may, or may not, involve cuckolding.
Or (2) If you want her to have sex with another man, you need to up your game.That could involve the steps "More words of Manipulation" and "Another step", as described above.

Good luck, and keep us posted on your progress!

Anonymous said...

You are right, this takes a long time and is not something that happens overnight! It is working and we are really. into the fantasy part now with her telling me she is ready to do it for real. I know that is still bedroom talk but she is getting real close!

Humble boy said...

Hi There.

Thnx for the feedback. I Am so happy for you! Patience really pays of.

I'm a bit curious, How long have you been to it? and what "Stage " would you say you are at right now?
Are you practicing chastity?

Keep it up!

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